Being the one without TS

[Misty]

A little back ground. I starting seeing a man with TS about 7 months ago. I have always been fully aware of his conditions. He is very open about it. We are serious about the relationship. So I guess my true reason for being here is to ask help from others who have lived where Im trying to live. I made the decision several months ago that this relationship is what I want. Just like with anyother relationship we all need those that understand and can pass on what has worked for them. It's obvious to me that the TS bothers him more than is does me. How can I reassure him without down playing what he has to go through daily?

[faith]

Misty,

I think the best way to handle it is just by making it a non-issue. My son probably feels most comfortable when we just go about our business and don't talk about the tics. And I myself have some tapping compulsions that I know my husband notices, but he doesn't say anything. The times he does, tho, I wish he wouldn't.

 

Does he wonder why you want to be with him since he has ts? May I ask what his symptoms/tics are? Also, about how old is he, a teen or twenties?

 

Faith

[Misty]

Faith, He is 36. I think he might have questioned me in the beginning. I guess at some point I have proven my self. He has vocal and movement tics. Some days are good, here latly they have been driving him crazy. He also has OCD.

[Chemar]

Hi Misty and welcome

 

I have both husband and son with TS

 

over the years I have learned to act like it doesnt exist *unless THEY* want to talk about it. People with TS find their tics etc get worse when they become aware that others are focusing on it

 

I try to keep their diets and environment as free of their known tic triggers as possible and keep the supplements etc available to help them.

[Misty]

We know that stress is a trigger for his tic but I dont think other triggers have ever been laided out for him. Any ideas on how to get that started?

[Chemar]

here is a place to start identifying triggers

http://latitudes.org/articles/finding_triggers.htm

 

you may also consider getting Sheila's book

http://www.latitudes.org/book.html

 

if you check the link in my signature you will also find some info on things we have found helpful