Hello Everyone! NurseMom21, Mommymom, Momxiety, WorriedMum, Sheila, LLYNCH & Chemar.
Thank you all for sharing your experiences here. Your posts help us to brainstorm here in our family and we are so sorry that there are so many children and parents struggling out there with these awful symptoms. I hope that some of you will have had better days since you posted or have found some things that are useful to get some relief.
I just saw that I posted 20 days ago. Re-reading that, it's difficult to see how things could have got much worse than that but we have just been through over the last five days and our nerves were left in tatters. My real reason for posting is to share what we discovered. My child is not better but the pressure cooker intensity in our household has diminished from an 11/10 to a 6.
SUGAR, WHEAT AND MILK.
SUGAR - We decided to keep a daily diary of everything. Weather, food, hours of sleep, hydration, stools, behaviour mood. We logged all meals and snacks on one page and on the opposite page noted any changes in behaviour. On one day we were totally baffled. I had home-cooked everything organic, from scratch. There had been no arguments in the house, no wheat, sugar or milk consumed and no screen time. That evening, my son had the most terrifying rage. Screaming himself hoarse, crying for help, hyperventilating, panicking, wide-eyed, breath-holding, red in the face, muscles tensed. It lasted in waves for an hour. We would have almost have called emergency services except for the fact that in our heart of hearts we knew that they would only administer medication or some form of sedation to mask the problem.
Once my child had recovered...and he did. He admitted that he had found some long-forgotten-about secreted toffees and gummy bears [milk, possibly wheat, colourings, preservatives, & SUGAR] and couldn't help himself. Impulse control is not his forte!
There were episodes like this for five days. We're still alive...just our nerves are in tatters.
WHEAT - I looked back through the diary comparing foods and 'episodes' and looked for likely culprits. My child and his dad are gluten-free. One was after eating some black pudding (sorry vegetarians!). He ate it because his dad ate it, and dad had changed the brand. On the label WHEAT. In the bin.
MILK - We had not flagged milk as a problem. We had switched to A2 Guernsey milk. One night, I watched my son down a mug of warm milk before bedtime. The result? After half an hour the same uncontrollable fit, rage, panick, screaming.
Some have mentioned on here that these are not a trigger. Every child is different. My son never had any reaction to any of these until Christmas time this year.
I suppose my nugget of wisdom here (Thank you Sheila, for your book) is that a diary helps. It is laborious and tedious and make sure the person with the neatest handwriting fills it in so that you can read it back! But it does help.
Tics we are left with are ramming fingers up nose, screwing up eyes and banging his head with his fist and repeating things very fast over and over like a tongue-twister (homeopath Zoom later) but compared to the sheer torture of the [discovered] food triggers, it is manageable.
Much love to you all xxx