Does it ever get easier?

[airial95]

So daddy went out ot town this morning, and all was going well. We had a great drop off at school, life was happy. I go to pick him up and he's in the conference room with the director in the midst of a HUGE meltdown, had been going on for over an hour. All we could get out of him was his new class room (that's he's transitioning to) was "yucky". It took me another 20 min to get calm enough to take him back to his room to get his things,but when he saw he new room, he freaked again. Did all I could to get his sister and get out of there. In the car, he went from compete nonfunctional to " please mommy can I have my window down?" all sweet and nice. The rest of the night it was that off and on, one minute out of his mind, the next as if everything was fine.

 

The only solace I had was that he went to bed with NO issues and fell right to sleep, I think he was just so worn out from all of the raging. The funny thing is, his teachers said he had a perfect day until they tried to send him next door, then he stopped at the threshold and flipped, just like a switch! He LOVES the other classroom and can't wait to be there all the time, so this was really weird.

 

We all suspect someone in his class likely has strep, and we'll find out in the next couple of days, but even if that's the case, it doesn't make it any easier.

 

He meet a the new behavior therapist tomorrow, so I guess she'll see what she's in for.

 

Sorry, just needed to vent, I think Now that he's asleep I'll open a beer and try to relax. Let's just hope he stays asleep.

[smartyjones]

arial - i'm sorry, i can't remember how old your son is - young, yes? my son just turned 6 but i had a few thoughts you might find interesting.

 

have you read the explosive child? the technique is to repeat what the child is saying while in a tantrum to calm the situation and pin point the trouble. you can also use it to find out info. if he has this reaction again with the room, you would repeat. . . "i don't want to go there", "you don't want to go there" - you can say it however seems appropriate - flat statement, question, joke. when it seems right, you can throw in a "why". if there is something that he knows is the trouble, it may make it easier for him to say.

 

have you read the book, Brave Ben? it's very cute. last year, my son couldn't make it to the last 5 weeks of pre-school. in the fall, he'd had trouble with school phobia. we thought it was similar - which i do believe it was but it did have some root in trouble as well. he had gotten in trouble over something that was really a misunderstanding on the teacher's part. we found that book in the summer and made our own version. we adapted it to his story and found pictures (he didn't want any real life pictures, only cartoons and was sure to say it wasn't him, but another child with the same name) there's a section where i wrote, "no one knew why. his mama didn't know. his papa didn't know. his teacher didn't know. even he didn't know." when it was complete and we read it, he whispered, "but i do know why." it was that he was afraid he'd always be the kid in trouble b/c he was in trouble that day and he didn't want to always be in trouble.

i was stunned to find this out.

 

for my son, he usually has trouble when things just aren't right. he's gotten to the point where he can often tell me, "it's just because" or "there's a reason but i don't want to tell you" or "there is a reason".

 

it may be that he just doesn't know what's up with that room today - or there are some techniques that might help you discover if he knows what the problem is.

[Fixit]

go ahead and vent....

didn't we decide also that we suffer from ptsd anyway?!?!?!?!

this is not our issue but when ds was younger we'd try to give more transisiotn time

ok..leaving in 15 minutes...ok leaving in 10 minutes

again he would not be as bazerk as some "normal"kids...but what ever i could do to make my life easier, as i was main(only) care giver, hubby was usually out of down during the week...

some things they can outgrow depending on degree and working with them..

i would and some teachers would say he has/had add/adhd...and agian i feel like he was minor when i see true add/adhd kids...i wouldn't even put him on the scale when i see some....anyway ..one thing that we got from brain balance when we did it was that...it was at the end of his 9yr old summer...so was it just time to outgrow it.....seems coinky dinky though!!

 

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[airial95]

He's only 2 1/2, so he is very young. I'm still reading the explosive child, but I always seem to find a way of getting at least something out of him. At his age, finding out it was that the room was "yucky" was pretty huge. We're working ourselves up to a definition of yucky.

 

I'll have to look up that other book, that might help us too. He's very bright, and knows that something "wrong" and gets very upset with himself when he loses control, so maybe the book will help him identify.

 

Without Dad here tonight to take the edge off I was just losing it! I just hope he's not getting sick, he went to sleep waaaaaaaaay to easy, and it makes me nervous. I probably should just count my blessings and enjoy the quiet huh?