Is it really me?

[Cephas]

Hello,

 

I’m a 17 year old and have something similar to the “OCD Ruining Relationships” post. A relationship I was in for the past two years ended for good a few weeks ago. It was far from perfect and was always a rollercoaster. It really took its toll. She was honestly my “first love” and I doubt I’ll ever not love her just a little for all she’s shown me. Her and her family decided it was best to end the relationship because they felt like I had OCD tendencies that played out in the relationship. I felt like I was just not receiving what I felt I needed to be “romanced” in the relationship. I felt like she wasn’t able to speak to my heart because her personality was much different than mine. Every time I’d voice my feelings I felt “shot-down” and dismissed as obsessing over something. I guess they made some points as to how I could be obsessing over things yet I remain skeptic. To see this play out in future relationships would KILL me because it would mean I could’ve done something to salvage THIS relationship.

 

My question: how does one differentiate between OCD and the symptoms of being romantically neglected?

 

I understand how useful examples would be but I’d like to hear thoughts from experience. I also don’t want to introduce any level of bias, which I try to avoid, yet I believe is often unavoidable when one relates a story such as this.

 

Thanks,

 

“Cephas”