Bumbleina

Hi Newbie, I am not OCD but my boyfriend is and your behaviors sound very much like his. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and it has gotten easier. At first it was really difficult because I did not understand his bizare rituals at all and it kind of freaked me out. Like if I told him that I will be home at 6:00 and I am late, (even 10 minutes) he would freak out. Not with anger mind you but with needless anxiety. He imagines that I am in the hopsital or that I have been abducted or something like that. He also freaks out about my ex-husband and says things like " do you wish that you were still with him?". He knows that my Ex was abusive and that I stopped loving him 11 years ago. He is also a germaphobe....yikes!!! I have been doing some research on OCD and I have come to understand that it is an actual illness and after gaining some knowledge on the subject I feel much compassion for him, (and you too)!!! I don't know what your girlfriends past was like but if she truly loves you then she will understand that you can't help the way you are and that if you could turn off the voices of anxiety in your head then you would do it in a New York minute. I am very independent and used to doing my own thing and not having to answer to anyone and as a non OCD girl, I would interpret his behaviors as some sort of macho control that he needed to have over me which is not the case at all. I try my best to comfort him. love him and understand him even though I am baffled at times by the whole OCD thing. The best thing that you can do for one another is to reassure each other and see each other through the tough times, when the OCD monster rears its ugly head. If you really love each other then with a little patience and time it will all work out. Hope that this helps........my best.