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Hello.. I posted once a long time ago..about my boyfriend with A.S...Well his name is Brian..And his parents are currently getting a divorce. One that is looking to get quite ugly. This is about his mother wanting to keep the house, at least until Brian's younger brother Kevin graduates from high school. Which is in about a year and a half. His mother is going to all ends to keep this house. Even to the end of labeling her child incompentent and keeping him under age untill 22. ( I don't know what that is called but i've seen other kids whose parents have that..but they are severly retarted.) I do not feel that Brian is incompenent he is 19 and sure he is behind for his age..But I feel that is greatly due to his mother never making him deal with anything thing always saying "its okay baby you have A.S" which yes he does..and it is harder for him..But that is not something to use and an excuse...I am afraid she is going to ruin Brian's life and he isn't going to be able to stop it..Can some1 pleaz tell me if she can do that to a 19 year old man...I need help I don't know what to do..I talked to her she told me she wouldn't do it..But for some reason I don't belive her.I do not want to get b/t a mother and her son. But I also am not gonna sit by and watch this happen...If some1 could help me I would greatly appricate it ... Thank You.. Carla

I've been dating a guy with AS for 2 years now..And from what he has told me he gets the same way....I will tell you what I tell my boyfriend when he says stuff like that " take a deep breath and remember If it's meant to work it will work..if its not then its not...just rememeber you have but one life to live..soo live it to the fullest"...But before you start living the moment to the fullest one step at a time..feel out whats going on ... then live it to the fullest... Tho thats just me ... finding some1 professtional is a great idea...(i actually wish my boyfriend would go..but he won't hear of it)!!!!! GOOD LUCK !!!

Hi...My name is Carla I'm 17...I've been dating this guy with Asperger's for 2 years now give or take....I've broken up with him once already..because he was so controling and I met another guy...But I ended up getting back with him..His name is Brian..and he is the most amazing person I have ever met...he really is...Hes opened my eyes to soo much...Tho we've just started kind of talking about his "AS" since I started working with kids that have autism..they are in preschool..and they are the best..tuff at times..but thats what makes it for me. no two of them are alike..I love it... But there are alot of similarities in brian...of course...but..sometimes I feel like I'm beating my head into a brick wall with brain..We have been on the rocks for awhile now..I feel that I need a break..but I don't want to hurt him..everytime I mention it ... its like his whole world is ending...he starts to cry...and sometimes yell...actaully it kind of changes from sobbing to screaming to given up then back agian..he hurt me once..he started to bang my head against the car window... I know he didn't mean to hurt me he would never do that...it just if we could work things out maybe it would be diffrent...but every time I bring something up he starts crying or he throws something in my face....and its gotten to the point where I have started to yell at him about it...Like when he starts to cry I say "stop acting like a baby" and after I say it I feel sooo bad..but I'm so frustrated..because I want to talk about something and it never gets solved b/c he starts crying and what I have to say takes back seat to him being upset..So I pretend like its okay to make him feel better....and it just happens over and over again... And space is a big issue also he flips out when I go out with my freinds and not him...he acts like I'm betraying him..and I'm not..I just want to hang out with my freinds..becuase they mean alot to me... I have to give him 5 min luectures why I have to go out with my friends....and he gets sad because he says "all he does is work and come home..and I get to go out with my freind" its not that he dosn't have freinds they all work and when they arn't working they are doing stuff he dosn't like to do...but I don't wnat to not see my friends because he can't see his..and I bring him sometimes..but not in certain situations with certain freinds...because I know that some bad happend befor and I'm not gonna do it to him agian...but I don't tell him that... Okay well I'm sorry this is so long..and I understands if no one has the time or patients to read it....but i've just had it up to my eye balls with this and some much more...if any one knows what I'm going threw or has any advices pleaz im open to anything at this point...(im sorry if i offened any1 in this I didn't meant to I just need help..I don't wnat to lose him) ~Caral