hey, you could consider yourself lucky? Let me share my story it could be a long one with 10 yrs worth of story's in my head but will keep it short lol.
My partner has just been diognised with OCD, and some other issuse, He is a ocd cleaner, and has sucked me into thinking my house should be spottless 24/7 tho this is not possible we have 4 daughters!
He will arrive home after work (self employed and a workaholic) and start cleaning, he screams at everyone to help him and has even asked me to feed the kids outside so they dont make a mess (aged 9 4 3 and 9 months) If i'm cooking tea he will be on the floor wiping the floor telling me i make such a bloody mess, would you get out of my F in way, etc... If im lucky enough to get a shower he will come in and check i not making a mess and make sure i have lined the shower nozzel up with the grout lines in the tiles, every saturday we have to clean for 7 hrs before we are allowed to leave the house and then when we about to leave he needs to clean the car inside and out and we are expected to stand there and watch!
The children have no relationship with his as he refuses to help raise them, he wont go to supermarket, a pre school centre or a school, I am expected to do everything, he wont socailise or go out for tea etc, I have been abused in front of my friends, family and strangers.
I could go on for hours about it but wont, he has socially excluded me from my friends and family and i spent years trying to hide his behavour,
I finally kicked him out and are working with him to help him deal with his issues, I know he cant help it and he watched the same sort of behavour from his father but i have been his door mat for 10 yrs and i cant do it anymore!
It has drained me, the children are now showing signs of mental illness.
Yes i want to support him, but i know if it was me he wouldn support me.
He has told me for the last ten yrs he not got a problem I have because i dont keep the house clean enough!
so i left out some of the more horriffic cleaning obessions, his low self confidence and self worth issues, It feels like i have had a extra emoitionaly needey kids, and i could write a book on his interfering mental parents, If i knew then (10 yrs ago) What i know now I think I would of ran a Mile!!
So moral of the story, you dont have kids and you might of just had a luckly exscape
Take care!
