Thank you for the advice. I've been doing a lot of online reading and passing on some of the things I've come across to my friend. I am just trying to walk the tightrope a little bit, I don't want to inundate her with too much, and yet I don't want to leave her to being the left alone with this. The book I found, Freeing Your Child From Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, was really so enlightening about the condition and filled with strategies for dealing with the rituals and behaviors that result. Once I finished reading it I gave it to her, and she so far she seems to be finding it useful I've also passed along some things I've found on this message board too. I gave her the link to the board, but I don't know if she's checked it out yet. They have been basically making the rounds "interviewing" doctors to find the neurologist that seems to be the best fit for them. I think they are close to choosing one, and then will be repeating the process to find the right CBT. I know that my friend will do whatever is necessary and best for her son and that she will not stop until she gets him the very best care. I'm just really worried about the strain, emotional overload and toll this process is taking, and will continue to take, from her. She's not someone that is 'easy' to help, so I kind of feel like I'm doing a delicate dance here. I'm very concerned and want to know what's happening, but don't want to push her to talk about it when she isn't up to it. I kind of feel like respecting her normal boundaries and the way she usually handles things might not be the right way to go here though, because this is a tough battle, and one that may require 'long haul' fortitude. I'm just trying to take it slow, learn as much as I can, and figure it out as I go. I really appreciate the advice from all of you. And trust me, I am no better friend to her than she has always been to me.
I will keep a good thought for all of you and your families in your own battles with this insidious disorder.