I'm writing not as an OCD sufferer, but as someone who has fallen deeply for a woman who has OCD. There are some situational complexities (distance, her living arrangements) make things difficult, but I think they can be overcome (coincidentally, I'll be moving to within a couple of hours of her within the next 4-5 months).
I'm just trying to figure out if I'm just fooling myself or if her condition has contributed to where we are now. Things were beautiful in the beginning, and we had some incredible experiences. Rather abruptly, she stopped calling (we used to have 4-5 hour conversations over the phone, but now we speak perhaps once every two weeks). I have seen her a few times since, and our mutual physical attraction is still very much apparent.
I don't think I can handle being a "friend with benefits" type of person for the long haul, as I want to take our relationship to the next level. It was definitely headed in that direction, and suddenly everything changed. She is aware of her OCD and has alluded to the difficulty it causes her in many areas of her life, but we've never really delved into the affliction on a truly personal level.
Is it common for OCD sufferers to pull back like this? There was no trigger event that I can point to...in most relationships, you can either go back to a time or a set of experiences that, in retrospect, signalled a forthcoming change of feelings or plans. That hasn't happened here. Should I just let her go and move on, or should I keep trying?
