I am so sorry for what you are going through. My lowest point was when we were fighting insurance, trying to get them to pay for IVIG for my daughter. For us, it never happened and we ended up paying out of pocket, but many do end up winning the fight. It's a terrible feeling to think your childs fate lies in the hands of someone on the other end of the phone who is only looking at financials. I can't help but have a deep resentment for all insurance companies. They have denied so much for my kids. It's very unfair, what you are going through. Everything all at once too. I remember last year there were many days when it took both my husband and myself to get my daughter to school. One of us would drive and the other had to hold her down in the back to keep her from attacking the person driving or to keep her from jumping out. Once at school, the principal would come outside (we called her first to warn her), and she took her kicking and screaming into school while we drove away. It was so terrible. The principal would always call us after she got calmed down. They would take her into the nurses station and keep her there until she was calmed down then take her to her class room. We were very fortunate to have a very understanding principal who was also very strong and could hold her during her fits. We found it was very important not to give in to her school refusal, no matter what. She would go through these episodes off and on through the school year. Usually it only took about twice of us dragging her (literally)into school before she would start going by herself again.
All that to say I know where you are and how painful this time is. I wish there was something magical I could say or advice I could give to help your through. It is very much one day to the next and I promise it will get better. Please take care of yourself as much as you can. All my best...
Dedee