My girlfriend n' I are adults. We have been in a long-distance relationship(she lives in New Mexico, I live in Maryland) for five years. She told me from the start that she has OCD. The first year she was begging me to move out there within months of our starting to date. I wanted to, but because of my physical health problems, I don't like living alone.
The first three years, she had no communication problems. Then starting shortly after Aug.' 2011, her communication started becoming less n' less. She recently told me that things started to change after Aug.' 2011. She told me, she is afraid of me. While I haven't verbally said it outright, I refuse to enable her OCD.
The first year, she asked me to get a battery of STD tests, considering my ex's sexual history. I thought that was a bonafide request, so I got them. I felt relieved when they all came back negative. But she keeps claiming that I have an STD. She even wanted me to do the battery of STD tests all over again. I flat out refused to do a second complete round of STD testing. Not only were some of the tests not covered by insurance, but I also knew, when she claimed the warts she got in Aug.'2011, were as a result of us having sex, that I knew she was obsessing. I even called the USCDCP(U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention), an agency of the U.S. Government, for my own piece of mind. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, confirmed what I had already thought, that her warts on her fingers, were not caused by us having sex. She keeps insisting that the warts are because of an STD she says I have.
She is not seeing a therapist for her OCD. She was seeing a therapist years ago, but that was before we even met online.
This is killing our relationship. Please, Anyone, Give me some feedback on how to handle this?
