Kim
You obviously are working hard to do everything you can for your 4 year old boy. I think that's very admirable.
My son is austistic. He is now a 14 year old. I wanted to mention to you that my wife Ruth is a Life Coach for parents of autistic kids. She focuses on helping mom's and dad's like you reach the goals and dreams you have for your child. Her website is www.copetohope.com. As her husband and the father of Jordan, I give her my highest recomendation. No, she isn't paying me to say that! copetohope.com "Move from just coping, to finding hope for you and your child."
Matt Schroeder