shelli

well the reason why i joined this site is becuase im feeling the kind of frustration with my boyfriend, we are both seventeen and i also feel up to eyeballs, sometimes i feel like giving up, and he will always burst into tears and once even bit me on the forehead! i know he doesnt mean to hurt me because he loves me. and i sometimes feel like a right ###### when i get frustrated, becuase i know its not his fault that he acts the way he does. but i cant help but feel like giving up sometimes. its good to know that some1 else is going through the same kinda thing. how is it going now? have u gone your seperate ways? or are u still working through the problems? xxx

hiya, my boyfriend was diagnosed with ADHD as a child due to his wild behaviour, i question this diagnosis as i have since been reading about aspergis syndrome and i really do beleive that my boyriend has it. As i have not known about this untill now, we have had many silly arguments, because of my failure to understand his inability to read my feelings and emotions. spending so much time with him was becoming tedious and frustrating due to his obsessions on particular subjects. also becuase i didnt know about aspergis, i often thought his behaviour and input into conversation was rude and eccentric. Im hoping now that i have learnt a little about the syndrome, that maybe il b able to cope a little better. the problems seem to arise in social situations when his behaviour can be 'in your face' and often frighten his friends. also just sitting on the sofa having a chat can end up in a huge argument because of his inabilty to read social cues, or read my emotions. It was getting frustrating that i have to explain my feelings in depth, otherwise he does not understand. if i tell him he's upset me, he always thinks that he has merely anoyyed me. a conversation that would normally last 5 minutes, lasts about 20! simply because i have to explain everything over and over again! we are both seventeen and he is very loving, loyal and caring, he apreciates me and the fact that i love him, we have a fantastic relationship and really trust each other, and now im hoping that things will get much better as i can now understand his behaviour. his mother has taken him to the GP and decribed her thoughts that her son may have aspergis, but her thoughts were dismissed, the GP beleives he has ADHD but i strongly feel that this diagnosis is incorrect. i have been finding it a little difficult and think it would be helpful to hear someone elses experiences. im not finding it easy, especially with us being so young. i think i just need a bit of guidance on dealing with it. i love him so much i cannot begin 2 describe the feelings i have for him. I like the fact that he is eccentric and wild with his friends, but sometimes it can be innapropriate. im getting frustrated and i have been very confused! i really want to make it work!